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on banning bossy

on banning bossy

So Sheryl Sandberg, the patron saint of leaning in, has handed down a new commandment from the mount: Ban “bossy”. (I had to convince myself not to write “excommunicate ‘Bossy’ from your vocabulary.” A holy trinity of inconsistent religious imagery! Apparently poorly-constructed figurative devices give me a weird thrill today.) When I heard about this,(…)

how to choose a halloween costume

how to choose a halloween costume

1. Get a group together. Or don’t. Decide whether you want to go solo or organize a small army of matching college girls. Group costumes can be fun, but they sort of require that you stay with the people involved for most of the night. (It’s hard to explain that you’re a “What Does The(…)

shaving down there: the great paradox of womanhood

shaving down there: the great paradox of womanhood

Warning for Mom and Dad: This is a blog post about my vagina. I really encourage you to stop reading right now. (Everyone else, carry on.) So, my spooky webmaster tools have told me that folks have been arriving at this blog by searching the phrase “shaving down there.” Y’all, I have been wanting to write(…)

i’m sorry, white american male

i’m sorry, white american male

I’m sorry, white American male. Suzanne Venker is right. I’ve been oppressing you. With all my murky intentions and feminist ends, I forgot to look out for your rights. My bad, white American male. I’m sorry. I’ve been representing you unfairly in the media. Every day, you have to see one-dimensional and offensive representations of your gender(…)

how you know you’re getting serious

how you know you’re getting serious

1. You stop pretending to be interested in boring things. I once dated a metalhead, so I know my way around this one. At the beginning, you act like you’re really interested in whatever it is that he wants to talk about (because as long as he’s talking, you can watch his face move, which(…)

how to get a boy to stop hitting on you

how to get a boy to stop hitting on you

1. Bring up your boyfriend. Talk about him in the most positive light possible. If he exists, that’s great, but if he doesn’t, it’s no big deal. Tell this unwelcome suitor that your boyfriend is the biggest strongest most fiercely possessive grizzly bear of a human being, who also happens to be on some kind of sports(…)

just friends

just friends

College is saturated with social quandaries. Can a girl be friends with a boy formerly of romantic interest? Is being friends with ex-people-of-romantic-interest a mutually beneficial choice? This is something that has been on my mind of late. I always try to be friends with ex-boyfriends. The male figure in the image above is actually(…)